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A kiss, a promise, a lie

Dating for me is hard work. I take it like a project. I must have a focal point (the guy), a timeline (date, kiss, sex), and goals (finance, marriage, travel, etc.).

It is very hard for me to connect with someone, but when I do… I am ready for the race, dates at least once per week, sex after 4 months, meeting my children at 6 months, and meeting my pastor at 8 months.

With such tight deadlines and expectations needless is to say that I don’t date often enough, but I have dated enough to realize a practice that is way too common among my prospects; after a very nice first date, toward the end, after walking me to my car, he kisses me, he says he enjoyed the date, and if it will be OK to go out again. So let’s rewind the situation again… the guy kisses me, he tells me he enjoyed the company, and he makes a reservation for the next date.

So I leave the situation pretty content and hopeful that maybe we will give it a try to get to know each other and to see what happens next; and then the count down begins. Day one, he probably does not want to look too forward; day two, well maybe he does not want to look too needy; day three, he probably is too busy; day 4, maybe he lost my mobile number, and so the days passed and passed and the call never happens. I am a strong and secure woman so typically I called, and he does not answer, I e-mailed and he writes back that he is very very very (as if one adverb is not enough) busy. After that busyness respond, I never hear back from him.

Why can’t a guy be mature enough and settle for a friendship or no relationship at all right there at the moment? I am a grown up woman, I can handle the truth. In fact the truth is better than the wait and the possibility of something happening. Is the kiss, the promise, the lie necessary? Are guys marking their territory so they can think about it while we women wait?

I just got this situation repeated itself just a couple of weeks ago, and of course he has not called back. So now that I have figured out the code, I know what I will say next time that a guy kisses me, tells me how much he enjoyed the date, and asks me if we could go out together again. This is what I will answer him, “yes of course I would love to go out again, but please, next time come prepared to have sex, to get the most amazing blow job ever, and to cum at least three times that evening.” I warranty you that he will call and try to get the date going pretty quickly, except that when he calls, I am just going to answer him by saying “I am currently very very very (yes three adverts) busy,” and never to call him back again.